Gossip

WHO AM I?

I have no respect for justice.
I maim without killing.
I break hearts and ruin lives.
I am cunning and malicious and gather strength with age.
The more I am quoted the more I am believed.
I flourish at every level of society.
My victims are helpless; they cannot protect
themselves against me because I have no name and no face.
To track me down is impossible. The harder you try, the more elusive I become.
I am nobody's friend.
Once I tarnish a reputation, it is never the same.
I topple governments and ruin marriages.
I end ministries set up by God.
I ruin careers and cause sleepless nights, heartache and indigestion.
I spawn suspicion and generate grief.
I make headlines, headaches and heartaches
I make innocent people cry in their pillows.
Even my name hisses.

---Author unknown

Why do people gossip?

The person who is laughing out loud, capturing the attention of everyone in the room while gossiping about someone is not as happy as he seems.

From the outside he seems strong, popular, interesting and in control but if you peaked inside his mind at the time he was gossiping you would have found things that you would have never expected to find.

You would have found low self esteem,jealousy,frustration,anger and weakness. Does this sound serious? Then read this article to know the truth about gossiping.

I couldn’t do it there so I will do it here

Sam was treated badly by a guy he barely knows but he couldn’t reply back or do something about it right away. Sam went home frustrated, angry and eager to revenge.

Since Sam didn’t have the courage to settle this problem face to face with that person he decided to go out with his friends to change his mood and when he arrived there he started gossiping about him!!

Do you know why Sam was gossiping? Because he couldn’t take revenge directly and so he
was trying to take it indirectly. Yes Sam was feeling weak and frustrated and this was the main reason behind his gossiping.

I am worthy, believe me!!

People who judge others, who try to put them down or who gossip sometimes have the goal of making themselves appear more worthy. What does a phrase like: "Did you see that guy,
he can’t even do anything right" mean?

It means, "Did you see that guy? He is nothing compared to me, I can do everything right while he can’t, i am worthy!!"

Sadly when people feel less worthy than others or when they feel inferior they start gossiping about others in order to feel good about themselves. After all if everyone become incompetent then surely they will become better than them all!!

I am jealous

Sometimes the main reason behind gossiping is jealousy. When someone feels jealous of someone else he might gossip about him in order to let people hate him.

Sadly jealousy stems from lack of self confidence and gossiping about someone because you are jealous of him only means that you need to fix your self confidence.

Accept me, please, I beg you

Lovers buy gifts for each other in order to strengthen their love and this is a very good thing but can someone give a big gift to a stranger in order to be accepted by him?

Yes it happens, people who feel worthless can do such a thing. By sacrificing some of their core principals and by gossiping about someone in front of a person they just met they hope to get one thing from that new friend which is acceptance.

Going down on your kneels and telling that person "Accept me, i beg you" is the same as scarifying your principles just to get a sign of acceptance as tiny as a smile.

No, its not related to boredom

Some people might try to defend gossiping by saying that its the result of boredom but this is incorrect. The truth is that boredom will lead to gossiping if the person is weak, frustrated, feeling inferior, lacking confidence or jealous.

However if the person was free of psychological weaknesses he won’t gossip even if he was bored simply because gossiping won’t be an option.

If you still gossip then its time to stop, be strong.

Source:

http://www.2knowmyself.com/Why_do_people_gossip

My Opinion:

    When someone knowingly sets out to harm another through gossip, I believe the victim should also consider whether their own behavior (conscious or not) has spurred this result.  If possible, a direct discussion would be good though somewhat unlikely,

    Ultimately, you are who you are, regardless of what other people think of you and perhaps the strongest response you can have is to remember that.
It seems the most empowering thought I can find at the moment,  Though, also, one should aim to be a little bit more conscious of one's own behavior and the impact that may have on others.